When I started to get good, and could escalate quickly with any girl, I remember those girls I slept with but couldn’t keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.

But I had my head higher than my ass.

…maybe that’s a little harsh.

But it comes to TWO different problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. But I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I’ve accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But…

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all are the same.

What it really need is self-acceptance.

A girl won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself first.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don’t like yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because you can’t really like a woman, if you don’t like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

In my experience, almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely.

And I am one of them.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.

But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn’t end after your opener, after a few dates, after “making love.” It never ends that way.

Because it is you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.

Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.

That is the vague you.

That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.

Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.

In fact, it’s self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.

But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she’s on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you talked and treat a woman like she’s lucky you approached her, she’ll feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

If you’re struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.