You and your partner have recently broken up. After careful consideration you have decided that the two of you not being together is just wrong. The planets aren’t aligned that way. You belong together and you want to get your ex back.

Because you feel so strongly about the rightness of your relationship you may be tempted to immediately contact your ex. You want to phone your ex at home or at work. You want to show up in a place where you know he or she is likely to be. You want to initiate contact and then force your ex to listen to reason.

But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.

There Is A Reason For The Split

There is a reason, or more than one, that you and ex have parted ways. This may all seem like a mistake to you but if you contact your ex now and demand to be heard you will only make the situation worse.

Difficult as it may be, you have to wait.

Only you can decide how long to wait before making contact with your ex. The circumstances of the break up can help you make the best decision.

If the break up happened over quite a long period, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger when you broke up, wait longer.

What do you know about your ex? How long will it take him or her to calm down? Once you think you have a good idea of how long to wait, double the time.

While You Wait, Look To Yourself

You have a waiting period to get through so use the time for some introspection and self-improvement.

Don’t beat up on yourself but do look at the role you played in the break up. You need to understand your own faults and mistakes. When the time is right and you are talking to your ex about reunion you have to be able to say that you are aware of these problems and are really trying to make corrections.

The best relationships are often the ones that nearly failed. The patience, self-control and practical self-improvement you practice now will pay off with a renewed and better relationship with your ex in the future.