To start any new habit only takes 21 days, that also goes for breaking any bad ones we may have. If you are still mooning over your ex and obsessing over every little thing that went wrong – STOP right now!!! Although it’s quite natural to feel hurt for a long time after a losing someone we love, we have to get up and begin to live again. Now put the junk food away and get out of those ugly old sweatpants, it’s time to begin some new habits and try something new to mend your broken heart!

To begin we have to break all the terrible habits we doing right now. Are you always checking up on what your ex is doing on Facebook or Twitter? With the friends you still share, are you still bringing him up and asking about them? We want to know if our ex feels the same hurt we do, just as we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. You need to make a huge effort to break these habits so you can heal. So, when you are feeling the need to go online or bring up your ex to friend, you need to pinch yourself. Not lightly but hard! You have to begin make yourself aware of these bad habits so you can stop them.

With our new self inflected injuries on our arms, we will begin some new habits to divert ourselves from the ones we are trying to stop. We need to begin to feel good about ourselves again so the first habit we should get into is complementing ourselves. As weird as it may feel you need to sit down and write 10 things you like about yourself. It could be as simple as this:

My 10 best attributes:

1. I’m also very…
2. I’m really good at…
3. I have great…
4. I’ve very good at…
5. My … is/are my best feature.
6. I really look good in…
7. I really love my…
8. I’m very…
9. My … really kicks butt!
10. One of my best skills is/are…

Now saying it like you mean it (so don’t squint your face up when you do it) every morning when you get up you are going to look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things to yourself. You are going to begin to like yourself again the more you say it, because the more you say it the more you will believe it.

Is there something that you have always wanted to try? Cause next we are going to try something new! Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Try to choose something fun so it doesn’t become a chore, this will help you boost your self confidence which will help you meet some new people as well as learning a new skill. These people will get to know the “real you”, not the “you” that you were with your ex.

Beginning new habits and trying something new will help keep your mind off what your ex is doing and soon you will stop thinking of them at all! For 21 days try these 2 things and see how much better you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? We are just beginning to retrain how we feel about ourselves and healing our broken heart takes time.