Contrary to what many may thing, women don’t appreciate men who are emotionally childish. It is too common in men and women secretly hate it.

Let’s first explain what emotional resilience is. Well, it is not that you have to act like Rambo and keep your emotions for yourself. People like Rambo actually suppress their emotions. That’s not good. I mean someone like James Bond. James Bond does feel emotions, but he neutralizes them in a healthy way. He doesn’t let his emotions roam wildly like a gang member would for example.

Women don’t say outright that they want a man who is able to control his emotions, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t want such a man. Of course they want such a man. It’s a dream of a woman. Women actually test men in all kinds of ways to see whether they will be able to handle their emotions in an appropriate way.

How do you think some men start abusing women? They don’t usually start out that way. It’s not like a woman goes on a date with a man and he starts beating and harassing her right then and there. The issue is that the man starts being even too nice in the beginning. Most women already see the red alert in the beginning, but they still stick around because they like him. And I am not saying that most men who act too nice turn out as abusers, but the truth is that a lot of them do turn out to either be domineering verbally or even physically. Fortunately, most emotionally healthy women will immediately dump these men.

The solution for you is to be more in touch with your emotions. That means that you must feel your emotions when they come up for you. When you sense an emotional reaction coming, just stop right there and just feel your emotions to heal them.

And friend, remember this getting the girls overall can get complicated. I don’t care if you need more pickup lines, or perhaps an increase of your self esteem. Remember this, there is always help online, so don’t be shy to ask for help!